I can't believe that I only managed a pathetic three posts during the month of October! What have I been doing man!
Anyway the past few days had been rather eventful for me cos I supported a friend of mine for a challenge. Come to think of it, its almost my first time supporting him actually. It has always been the other way around. So well.. after the entire episode I just came to realise quite a lot of stuff about life, about myself.. So yup, it's re-launching time. Life is always so amazing because you will always discover new things.
I look back at my past and picked up too many occasions during which I've been too emotional.. mostly during JC days actually. Impulsive, rash, immature - these adjectives just kept popping up whenever I recall those days. But well, you can never turn back the clock, so all I can do is to self-reflect and take on a new lease of life.
And of course the episode also made me become more appreciative of dear, who is ever so supportive. He doesn't see eye-to-eye with me all the time, but he respects and supports my decisions. He gives me space to live my own life and to discover myself. I think that's really important but sadly, not every of my girlfriend has the luxury of doing so. He doesn't stop me from doing things I want to because he believes that I should lead my own life. And despite being the significant other, he doesn't have the right to interfere with my "growing up" because everyone needs to go through that process! So yup, ha, I'll try not to bully him so often!
And then I came across an article in TODAY'S papers that struck me. Entitled Success is being true to yourself (Ivy Singh Lim):
In one's pursuit of success in life, there are many routes to attain it.
To me, success is being able to be true to yourself - and only yourself. It really doesn't matter what others say - be they your relatives and friends, your business associates and your political leaders, other Singaporeans and the International community. At the end of the day, you ought to live your life the way you want to.
Most unenlightened people link success to money - and more specifically, having lots of it. I think there are many perspectives from which to look at this.
My personal philosophy is that if you are not an honest or upright person, then all the millions in your bank mean nothing.
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That's the part that struck me.. the actual article is much longer. I never fail to question myself for the paths I chose and for the sacrifice I've made. Of course my journey hasn't been smooth sailing because of my decision to take the road less travelled. I'm not going to be patronizing and make it sound like its a damn noble decision or to glamourise it. Its just that all the "sufferings" I've been through opened my eyes to realities in the world.
My mentor has always encouraged me to think out of the box and not be afraid to go against the norm. Whenever I get upset over grades, she'll console me by saying that in time to come, these grades will become some alphabets and would eventually fade away. In other ways, she taught me to take charge of circumstances, not let them rule over your life.
And just like some of the advices I offered to friends: The most successful people make the best out of their circumstances, they don't brood over the circumstances. But of course success is always relative.
So what does success mean to you?
I'm not trying to be philosophical and try to instill the "material wealth is all but a facade" mentality - don't get me wrong - I think having some sort of material wealth is definitely essential for survival! Just that how much is enough? And what sacrifices are you willing to make in order to achieve your definition of success? At the end of the day, had these sacrifices been worthwhile? I think we should always question ourselves - before we get too lost in the rat race.
So what will you do to attain that level of success? How far will you go?
Personally, I would not really be able to clearly define success because my perception of it changes from time to time. And despite all the you-should-not-care-about-what-others-say talk, in the end, I would still take them into consideration because its part of my socialization in my circle. So hopefully, I'll be able to continue to evolve and shed old skins because life is such a wonderful journey that I can't wait for all the surprises to unfold.
So back to the episode about supporting.. it also reinforced to me that we should all have the courage to do things we want to, so that we wouldn't have so many regrets. But sadly, not many of us possessed that kind of courage.
So yup, that's too much for a night.. I just had a good workout at gym (finally had time to go) and I'm feeling really beat because of the lack of rest.
Good night pple, wake up to a beautiful day!
p.s: i finally had time to do my hair! It was getting all dry and messed up and I couldn't take it anymore (on my head everyday!) so I had to do something about it - I rebonded my hair again so its the nice, sleek and neat look. I think I still prefer the permed hair but my stylist told me to let the hair take a good rest and it would be a breeze to maintain so I thought why not! So yup, its a bit straight now but I think in a few weeks it'll be better.. so yup! Don't be surprised when you meet me on the streets!
